I definitely do not believe in love at first sight. There are so many things that contribute to my love for my husband that I didn't even know until we'd been dating for months.
Neither do I believe in "the one." I think that there are lots of people that each of us can be compatible with. It takes different effort on our parts to get along with different people. But if I'd never met my husband, I'm sure that I would have found someone else that I'd be happy with. And someone else that I would have challenges with. Because my husband's not perfect and we do have challenges in our relationship.
That said, I do believe in a perfect match. I have a strong belief in God and that he wants us to be happy. And I think that he will guide people to date and marry the person that will make them the most happy. In this sense, even though the two people involved are not perfect, it can be the perfect match because of how they each make the other person the most happy. And I feel like I got my perfect match!
The first thing that comes to mind about "the one" is, it's all relative. We're constantly in a state of change so what "the one" may be one minute could change in the future. But it would only make sense that when we join in union with "the one" that they are also in a state of change, implying that at that time "the one" will remain the same because both individuals then change together. Is that too deep?
Love at first sight sounds a little too romantic for my tastes, but how about love at first getting to know you, or love at first here's my life story, what's yours. I believe it's possible to develop love for another person even after one encounter; the level at which it develops is the key point. It primarily depends on the definition of love being used to interpret the feelings being felt. There's a love for humanity, for family, for friends, or spouse. My main thought is, love must start somewhere because it is cultivated and grows stronger over time.
As for a perfect match, maybe I take things too literally, but nothing is perfect; at least not at first. The image that comes to my mind is two puzzle pieces that in all appearance do not match. However, after an examination, the results indicate that portions of the puzzle pieces that do not fit can be removed completely or relocated to fill gaps, indicative of the need for both parties to give up old habits or traits that are incongruent to the relationship. BUT you can also use this analogy to argue that it's possible to have perfect matches; if we believe that God molds us (guides us) then he may be even now shaping/reshaping us to fit our future/current partner better.
Again, just some thoughts I had while pondering your questions.
I definitely do not believe in love at first sight. There are so many things that contribute to my love for my husband that I didn't even know until we'd been dating for months.
ReplyDeleteNeither do I believe in "the one." I think that there are lots of people that each of us can be compatible with. It takes different effort on our parts to get along with different people. But if I'd never met my husband, I'm sure that I would have found someone else that I'd be happy with. And someone else that I would have challenges with. Because my husband's not perfect and we do have challenges in our relationship.
That said, I do believe in a perfect match. I have a strong belief in God and that he wants us to be happy. And I think that he will guide people to date and marry the person that will make them the most happy. In this sense, even though the two people involved are not perfect, it can be the perfect match because of how they each make the other person the most happy. And I feel like I got my perfect match!
The first thing that comes to mind about "the one" is, it's all relative. We're constantly in a state of change so what "the one" may be one minute could change in the future. But it would only make sense that when we join in union with "the one" that they are also in a state of change, implying that at that time "the one" will remain the same because both individuals then change together. Is that too deep?
ReplyDeleteLove at first sight sounds a little too romantic for my tastes, but how about love at first getting to know you, or love at first here's my life story, what's yours. I believe it's possible to develop love for another person even after one encounter; the level at which it develops is the key point. It primarily depends on the definition of love being used to interpret the feelings being felt. There's a love for humanity, for family, for friends, or spouse. My main thought is, love must start somewhere because it is cultivated and grows stronger over time.
As for a perfect match, maybe I take things too literally, but nothing is perfect; at least not at first. The image that comes to my mind is two puzzle pieces that in all appearance do not match. However, after an examination, the results indicate that portions of the puzzle pieces that do not fit can be removed completely or relocated to fill gaps, indicative of the need for both parties to give up old habits or traits that are incongruent to the relationship. BUT you can also use this analogy to argue that it's possible to have perfect matches; if we believe that God molds us (guides us) then he may be even now shaping/reshaping us to fit our future/current partner better.
Again, just some thoughts I had while pondering your questions.